Somanyofusholdontolittlecomplaintsthatmayhavecomefromanargumentamisunderstandingthewaywewereraisedorsomeotherpainfulevent.Stubbornlywewaitforsomeoneelsetoreachouttous—believingthisistheonlywaywecanforgiveorrekindleafriendshiporfamilyrelationship.

Afriendofminerecentlytoldmethatshehadn’tspokentohersoninalmostthreeyears.Shesaidthatsheandhersonhadhadadisagreementabouthiswifeandthatshewouldn’tspeaktohimagainunlesshecalledfirst.WhenIsuggestedthatshebetheonetoreachoutshesaid“Ican’tdothat.He’stheonewhoshouldapologize.”Afteralittlegentleencouragementhowevershediddecidetobethefirstonetoreachout.Toheramazementhersonwasgratefulforherwillingnesstocallandofferedanapologyofhisown.Asisusuallythecasewhensomeonetakesthechanceandreachesouteveryonewins.

Wheneverweholdontoourangerweturn “smallstuff（问题）” intoreally“bigstuff”inourminds.Westarttobelievethatourpositionsaremoreimportantthanourhappiness.Theyarenot.Ifyouwanttobeamorepeacefulpersonyoumustunderstandthatbeingrightisalmostnevermoreimportantthanallowingyourselftobehappy.Thewaytobehappyistoletgoandreachout./Letotherpeopleberight.Thisdoesn’tmeanthatyou’rewrong.Everythingwillbefine.You’llexperiencethepeaceoflettinggoaswellasthejoyoflettingothersberight.

You’llalsonoticethatasyoureachoutandletothersbe“right”theywillbecomelessdefensiveandmorelovingtowardyou.Theymightevenreachback.Butifforsomereasontheydon’tthat’sokaytoo.You’llhavetheinnersatisfactionofknowingthatyouhavedoneyourparttocreateamorelovingworldandcertainlyyou’llbemorepeacefulyourself.

21.Theunderlinedword“rekindle”inParagraph1probablymeans“______”.

A.recover B.develop C.accept D.replace

22.Intheauthor’sopinionweholdontoourangeroftenbecausewethink______.

A.wecanturnsmallissuesintobigones

B.ourpositionsarehigherthanothers

C.ourownopinionsmattermost

D.otherswillbelessdefensive

23.Thebestthingtodoafteraquarrelisto_________.

A.letgoofourownrights